To Nurse the idea of love so deep

The sun was out in the city of heat, within the Federal Capital Territory of Nigeria in Africa. Dipped across the barricade at the pharmacy casting a warm, amber glow with her bright smile, perfect dentition and lights all green, lady Edatu stood up from her table, nervously twisting her hands, glancing at the door for about 30 seconds. Feeling totally prepared for this she smiled for him again, as he walked in for enquiries and to get the much-needed malaria medication. He left few minutes later knowing that he got more than everything he ever wanted.

It had been over five years since she met Abel. Their love had been anything but easy. From the very beginning, they’d faced opposition from their own convictions, choices and fears. The unstable and unpredictable realities also affected everything. Still, they wanted the best of each other, she believed in his dreams, he was in tune with her passion, even on the days when he doubted himself. She encouraged him to keep going, to keep pushing forward, even when it meant sometimes having to be completely selfless and share, her support became his anchor, and he, in turn, became her wings.

Edatu thought she had lost him when he pushed her away so vigorously over an argument, she in turn blocked him from contacting her. She felt really bad especially because of the words that he used to castigate her. She tried to pay him back in his own coin, then one night, her voice trembling, she confronted him about what she had seen and he also confronted her about what he saw. They both admitted there had been elements that were “not that deep” whatever that meant, but it had only made him realize how deeply he loved her. He couldn’t imagine his life without her, he had said, pleading for her forgiveness.

"It had taken everything in her to forgive him, but she had, because her love was too deep, too boundless to be swayed by a mistake."

Over time, they rebuilt their trust, brick by brick. They had weathered family pressures, financial hardships, and the ache of distance. Months passed, they got serious, slowly regained strength, passion and commitment. One evening, as they lay side by side, Abel turned to her, his eyes full of the gratitude words could never capture. "You know I love you so much, and I will never stop loving you," he whispered, confidently and with the courage of a determined champion. She smiled, tilting her head a little to the left. "Yes, I know" she replied softly. "When you love someone, you don’t just walk away, everything brings you closer to each other".

He sat down across from her, reaching out to take her hands in his. For a moment, they sat in silence, the passion and emotion filling the air between them. Finally, Abel spoke, his voice barely above a whisper. "I can’t imagine my life without you, Edatu. We’ve been through more than most people could ever understand. We will meet your parents I am ready to fulfill the tradition and customary obligations, I want to spend the rest of my life daily making you my choice as we deserve each other."

She looked into his eyes, her own brimming with joy and certainty. She didn’t need grand gestures or promises; she knew the depth of his love. She nodded, her voice breaking as she replied, "We’ve made it this far, babe, We’ll keep going, together."

They stayed for a moment in the world of their determined conviction, fingers intertwined, knowing that whatever came their way, they would face it together. Their love was more than just a feeling; it was a commitment—a choice they would make, every single day, for the rest of their lives.

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